Job Tip #3 | Top Seven Reasons Why You Should Take Control of Your Life at Work

29 Apr

(Note: This article has been modified since it was lasted posted on April 29, 2009)

“… In the years to come you will find yourselves up against gods of all sorts, big and little gods, corporate and incorporeal gods, all of them demanding to be worshiped and obeyed—the myriad deities of money and power, of convention and custom, that will seek to limit and control your thoughts and lives. Defy them; that’s my advice to you. Thumb your noses; cock your snooks. For, as the myths tell us, it is by defying the gods that human beings have best expressed their humanity.” – Salman Rushdie, writer (As quoted in Success: Advice for Achieving Your Goals from Remarkably Accomplished People, edited by J. Pincott)

In job tip #1 I suggested that you may want to start your own business and create wealth for yourself and your family and gain more control over your life.

In this tip I am suggesting that you think differently about your relationship with your employer, specifically the managers that manage your department or company.

So if you decided not to start your own business and work for someone else, that’s fine. But if you must work for someone else please understand this:

Your employer is only hiring you, he/she’s not buying you! Therefore, he/she doesn’t own you.

No matter how much he tries to convince you otherwise.

That’s right. We’re talking about a mutual business relationship here.

Never give an employer, manager, or anyone for that matter, authority over your life. Your first priority should always be to youself and your family. In other words, what’s in the best interest of you and your family first, then what’s in the best interest of your employer.

Now that doesn’t mean you won’t be loyal to your employers and their managers. It just means that managers and employers have their proper place in your life.

You have to stand up for yourself. You can never let someone hinder your success at work or control the quality of your life at home or at work.

Too often I’ve seen the stress, hurt, and frustration managers have caused their employees by dictating to them what they can and can’t do in their own lives.

Now let’s look at what happens when you take control of your life at work:

  1. You build your self-confidence.
  2. You decrease your work related stress levels.
  3. You self esteem will increase, resulting in your being more productive and successful.
  4. Your managers will respect you more and understand you can’t be manipulated and controlled.
  5. You do those things that matters most to you and your family. Thus you enjoy life more.
  6. You regain control of your life at home and at work.
  7. More importantly, you express your humanity.

Working for someone doesn’t mean giving up control of your life. Work for you should be a means to an end. And that’s to make a living.

Now, go take control of your life at home and at work and be successful and remarkable!


Marvin Wilson is a professional resume writer and job search coach for  He is dedicated to helping job seekers & employers connect. You can follow him at You can also connect with Marvin Wilson on LinkedIn at


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